The reason they aren’t as inspirational as they would like is because of something they do and need to stop doing. Many of these behaviors are related to an excessive need for certainty, safety, and predictability.
It is unlikely that the person in front of you will appreciate you more when you are chronically sorry. And in the workplace, this pattern can hold you back because you will appear to lack confidence and people will be less likely to trust that you can do a great job.
Many achievers work hard because of how they were raised. Their parents taught them the value of hard work. They were praised for working hard and their identity is defined (at least in part) by how hard they work and how much they achieve. Their value system is built on this foundation. Their self-worth depends on it.
The behaviors affecting you aren’t outrageous but the repetition has made you hyper-sensitive. Each occurrence seems to reactivate the unpleasant emotions created by past incidents. Learn how to de-activate the triggers and find inner peace.
It sounds like a ridiculous question, doesn’t it? Who in their right mind would choose to keep having problems instead of enjoying a blissful life? Actually, almost everybody does. Having problems – I am not talking about tragedies but everyday problems – come with a variety of payoffs.
What if I told you that by changing your thought patterns you could immediately improve your quality of life? You see, the emotions you feel are created by the stories you play in your head and by what you focus on when you look at your reality.
Even though you met or exceeded all job requirements, nothing prepared you for the stress, politics, and mind-games you have to navigate on a daily basis. You wake up in the morning with a knot in your stomach, secretly wishing you could go back to your old job. But you can’t. Here is what to do instead.
It is common for people to spend a significant amount of time feeling bad about things they think they “should” do but they are not doing. Sometimes, they spend more time thinking about it than the time it would actually take to get the tasks done. Find out how to end procrastination.
Is there something you want to do but you are afraid to fail? Is fear limiting you or even stopping you from pursuing your dream? You don’t have to stay stuck. Here are ten of the most effective methods I use with my clients to help them overcome fear.
When you know, logically or intuitively, that what is being asked isn’t right for you, you owe it to yourself to look for reasons (not excuses but compelling reasons) to say no. Stop feeling obligated. Don’t say yes to a request if it means saying no to yourself! Learn how to do it guilt-free!
The key to reclaiming your personal power is deciding to take responsibility for everything in your life. If you blame someone or something, you may feel off the hook but taking the role of a victim takes away your ability to change what is happening. Learn how to live empowered.