The reason they aren’t as inspirational as they would like is because of something they do and need to stop doing. Many of these behaviors are related to an excessive need for certainty, safety, and predictability.
It is unlikely that the person in front of you will appreciate you more when you are chronically sorry. And in the workplace, this pattern can hold you back because you will appear to lack confidence and people will be less likely to trust that you can do a great job.
Many achievers work hard because of how they were raised. Their parents taught them the value of hard work. They were praised for working hard and their identity is defined (at least in part) by how hard they work and how much they achieve. Their value system is built on this foundation. Their self-worth depends on it.
The behaviors affecting you aren’t outrageous but the repetition has made you hyper-sensitive. Each occurrence seems to reactivate the unpleasant emotions created by past incidents. Learn how to de-activate the triggers and find inner peace.
It sounds like a ridiculous question, doesn’t it? Who in their right mind would choose to keep having problems instead of enjoying a blissful life? Actually, almost everybody does. Having problems – I am not talking about tragedies but everyday problems – come with a variety of payoffs.
What if I told you that by changing your thought patterns you could immediately improve your quality of life? You see, the emotions you feel are created by the stories you play in your head and by what you focus on when you look at your reality.
Even though you met or exceeded all job requirements, nothing prepared you for the stress, politics, and mind-games you have to navigate on a daily basis. You wake up in the morning with a knot in your stomach, secretly wishing you could go back to your old job. But you can’t. Here is what to do instead.