When two higher ed. leaders have difficulty communicating and working together, it almost always stems from the same pattern…
"I have been going out of my way to show appreciation and try to make them want to be more engaged, but I am not seeing any improvements."
When you suspend judgement and show you are interested, people will feel more comfortable with you and stop being defensive.
One thing I don’t love about higher education is how common it is for employees’ poor work performance to be tolerated.
Managers don’t shy away from expressing their opinions, and often forget that when their Presidents “ask” for something, they are not really asking, they are telling
People pleasers typically lack boundaries and have a hard time saying no. They tend to put other people’s desires before their own which causes them excessive workloads and too many sacrifices.
If you think your only option is to be punitive, think again! Start by no longer rewarding undesirable behavior, and you will positively affect your co-workers and covertly help them become better professionals.
It means developing an ability to see situations from other people’s perspectives and understanding their feelings.