If failure means not getting what you want, and letting fear stop you from pursuing what you desire, also leads to not getting what you want, isn’t that failure too?
Most over-achievers tend to define strength as “not letting anything take them down” and “never showing any signs of weakness” or “never needing anything from anyone”.
People pleasers typically lack boundaries and have a hard time saying no. They tend to put other people’s desires before their own which causes them excessive workloads and too many sacrifices.
If you tend to take things personally when they are not personal, it is because something has hit a nerve. You are projecting your own doubts and insecurities on other people.